The Rules are Rarely Followed
There are rules with this dating status, and they are rarely followed. Friends with benefits status is mainly about sex, anything other than that turns into something else or what I like to call a “play relationship”. If you engage in pillow talk, meet for dinner or drinks before the “hook up”, attend events together, or know anything about that person’s family or family issues…you are in a “play relationship” and someone, usually, the female is the one that takes that information to heart, digests it and in her mind she begins to wonder what the two of you are doing. As humans, we tend to share our feelings or experiences with others and when friends who sleep together do this, it causes blurred lines.
It May Cause Emotional Harm
If you are doing any of the above, you are in a “play relationship”,
and “play relationships”, hurt! Even if
you are protecting yourself physically (and let’s pray that you are), the
emotional damage can and will happen to at least one of the parties involved. If you are a friend with benefits status, it should
not be long term or viewed as long term.
The longer you stay in this status, the more you are setting yourself up
for failure.
Are You Settling for Less?
I can’t answer that only you can.
If your answer is yes, please know that you don’t have to. If you desire a wholesome, positive committed
relationship, there is no reason why you cannot have one. In fact, you can start right now by loving
YOURSELF unconditionally. It may be a
little hard to break away, but you can do it…I know that you can.
Yes, it may take some time, and yes, you may kiss a lot of frogs before
finding your prince charming, but if you remain true to self, and most of all
KNOW WHAT YOU WANT for your life, it will be well worth the wait.
Peace and blessings,
Phaedra
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