We all get lost from time to time. I believe that life and the many phases of it change us. We begin to doubt ourselves and tend to overlook behaviors in ourselves and in others that we shouldn’t, we lose our ability to say “no”. We give and we give until one day, we realize that all this giving is for the birds, and if you are governed by the Christian principle of love we often forget that this principle also includes the ability to say “no”. And it is in this place where our search begins, or enlightened period starts…a change is coming.
To be honest, I found myself in
this place before and I wanted to “get it back—my worth”. What I found is that there is no clear cut
formula to follow because each of us has our own journey to travel through life. Only we know what needs to change and what
needs to remain the same, who needs to stay and who needs to leave, but
everything has a starting point and for me mine was…
Don’t be so Darn Hard on Yourself
Let’s face it; giving without receiving anything is return is a hard
pill to swallow. You feel used,
inadequate and just plain ‘ol dumb. But
you are not, nor have you ever been because what you gave, time, money,
friendship, love, etc. came from the heart.
It came from a pure place and because of that you were protected the
entire time. If the only thing that
happened was that you got your feelings hurt then lesson learned and take the
necessary steps to move forward.
Ask for Guidance
Being the spiritual person that I am, I know that my strength does not
come from me but from a higher source and that I why I read, meditate and
pray. This opens the door to infinite
possibilities. But I am not specific per
se in what I am asking for. Your words
are important and most time we are not saying the right words in the right order.
Whenever I am unsure in the matter of giving myself or my time, I am not
specific. How can I be when it is at
this point that I do not know where to start?
Here is what I learned to asked,
I say “whatever your will is in
this situation of loving and giving, your will be done. When there is a person or situation in which
my giving is involved, let your will be done so that I may act
accordingly. If there are any misgivings
in this matter, please reveal it to me beforehand and spare me the agony of
going all the way through it”. And
that is where I leave it, in his hands, and to quote Momma Dee “and in that
order”. All is revealed in time.
Affirmations
Oh what a wonderful way to give to yourself! There is nothing like standing in front of
that mirror or riding down the highway reciting wonderful and positive things
about you! The keys to solid affirmations
are:
1) Practice it daily
2) Affirm something that is easy
for you to remember and call to mind
Positive affirmations reinforce what you already know about yourself in
your subconscious but are too afraid to say aloud. Affirmations produce belief, which produces
change, and in turn produces growth.
Practice what You Preach
If one of your affirmations is to love yourself, then do it. This goes far beyond pampering yourself at
the spa or getting your hair and nails done on a regular basis, those things
are necessary as well. But it also
involves what and who you allow in your life and their treatment of you. If you affirm that you are beautiful, then
act like it. If you affirm that you
deserve true love, do not settle for anything less than. The more you affirm, and practice what you
affirm, you will see a change in your actions AND the type of people who will
cross your path.
Life is way too short to sell yourself short. We all have a purpose here on earth and it is
certainly not to feel bad about ourselves and undervalued. Knowing your worth transcends across many
areas in our life from careers, to friendships, personal goals and relationships. It is the very foundation we all need to live
healthy, purpose driven lives…and that my lovelies is the truest lesson of them
all. I’m just saying. Until next time my lovelies…
Peace and blessings,
Phaedra
