As the clock on 2014 wound down, 10…9…8…I gathered my thoughts as to how
my 2015 would start and eventually end.
I thought about the most important states of my life, mental, physical,
spiritual and financial…7…6…5. Trying to
wrap my mind around this list of envisioned accomplishments placed on a piece of paper
that were as long as my arm. For me, it seemed
torturous to look at…4…3…. Then all of a
sudden, I took the list in hand and tore it up…2…1…Happy New Year!
What was I writing these things down for? For one, it’s what I had done in the past,
every year since I could remember. Did
it work, not really. Every successful person
that I know say that you must have a written plan for your life and I believe
that. But what I realized was that instead
of following through with my life plan, I restarted it every year and by doing
that no real connections were being made.
I had a plan and I needed to stick to it! My wants, needs and desires were the same and
what I needed to change when the time came was the method of implementation and
follow through of my life plan.
So here I am in month three of the New Year recognizing that progress is
here because I decided to just live without a list!
The first thing I did was to acknowledge that my life on earth was not
a mistake, and that I am here because I am supposed to be here. I have absolutely no doubt about that. The second thing is the acknowledgement that
my life plan is and will forever be a step-by-step process and that my steps
must be ordered properly and that each day I am getting closer to my purpose. I started with getting my core state of mind
in alignment.
State of Mind #1 - Finances
You can buy the house or car, but if you mismanage your funds, your
financial mind will forever be in turmoil. Moderation is key and the word “no”, well that
is even better. Like my mother always
says “there are more important things in life than having lots of money” but
understanding the science of handling money properly, makes the more important
things more enjoyable.
State of Mind #2 – Physical
When people think of the word “baggage”, they think in terms of an
emotional state. Me, I think about the
word “baggage in a physical way. It was
physically draining for me to carry around the extra weight that I had been
carrying around for years so I made a decision to get rid of it. I also made the decision to keep it off, and
just as in any step-by-step process, moderation is key and the word “no”, well
that’s even better. Changing the way you
think about food will not lead to a dull life as most “foodies” might
argue. It’s how much you consume and
where you place food on your list of priorities is what you really need to
focus on. Exercise is equally
important. A high caloric intake of food
cannot be off-set in the beginning. Do
the work, loose the weight, and then research to see where the method of
implementation and follow through could possibly be adjusted a little bit.
An unhealthy habit is another struggle.
What is easy to pick up, is not so easy to put down. It takes time, and you will try over and over
again. But keep going eventually you
will get there.
State of Mind #3 – Mental
This state covers a broad area.
So many things can affect a person mentally. Everything from relationships, physical, financial and
spiritual. The first thing that has to
be done is to “get out of your own head”.
Improper thoughts harm you. What
you think you see or hear, is very often not the case. In reality, what you may be thinking in your
head causes you to act or react in a certain way, which in turn brings on the
negative result. The key here is to get
to a point in your being that you can make the distinction between fact and
fiction. Normally, I go with my gut or “intuition”
that rarely fails me. When my “gut”
tells me not to go, I don’t go, not to call, I don’t call and to speak, then I
speak. Intuition is not emotion, I leave
that at the door and for women, that is hard but not impossible to put into
practice.
Secondly, you have to value yourself and know your worth. So many bad decisions are made because we
fail to realize that just because it is in front of us, we don’t have to take
it. Have little to no self-worth leaves
you open prey and when it’s all over, you suffer the consequences.
State of Mind#4 – Spiritual
Recently, I asked a person who I cared deeply for what their belief
system was. Instead of telling what they
believed, they began to tell me all the things that they did not believe
in. For a person like me, that was
confusing because I know what I believe in.
I believe in love, god, family, communication and the power of one. I asked because for me it would have provided
me with a sense of commonality. I
believe that they knew what they believed in and that the divide would be too
big. But there is really no divide, just
a difference. I firmly agree that people
don’t have to believe the same in all things, but I know for me a belief in
something is important. So no matter
what you believe, be able to express it, work on it daily and build on it. For it is what we believe in that makes us
even stronger.
Now I am able to say that my life plan without a list is truly a journey. The road map of life is filled with the proverbial
twists and turns, most of which I have seen in a different way before. I trust in what I know and in what and who I believe
in and I just LIVE!
Until next time my lovelies…
Peace and blessings,
Phaedra
