We are just too quick to assume that we could not be the one that is
hindering a person’s growth, as if we are saviors to everyone we encounter. For the past few months, my muse has had me
thinking about motives. My last article on
intentions alluded to the fact that everyone has intentions and one must always
find out a person’s true motives before letting them into our lives.
If you allow yourself to think back during the course of your life, you
may find that your movement in and out of someone’s life in at least one
instance was for the good of the other person. And although there are many good reasons why
we or they were removed, below are two good reasons why movement definitely
will take place.
Dishonorable Motives – In
Relationships
They were financially secure and you needed a place to stay. Of course you liked them, and enjoyed their
company, you even traveled and went on outings together, perhaps you even moved
in together….but you were just trying to get yourself together until you got on
your feet. Now there is nothing wrong with that IF in the beginning you told them that were your intent and it was
agreed upon. IF it was done in any other manner, “your
motives were not honorable”. And spirit will
remove you or them from that situation because your motives were misleading and
untruthful and well, the other person deserves better.
Disguised Motives – Business and
Friendships
You act one way, but you really don’t mean it. I see it a lot in business and friendship. Let’s say for example that there is a
business connection that you want to make on your job. You attend all the events, you volunteer for
activities, but your heart is not in the right place, and when you don’t get
what you really wanted, you stop doing all those things.
There is a distinct difference in “disguised motives” and
“networking”. I have a friend girl who
is great with connecting with people.
What I love about her is that she is straight forward and truthful. When she schedules informative meetings with
a possible connection, she starts the conversation by saying
“This is where I am, and here is where I want to be, can we talk about
how I can reach that goal, and the people I need to be connected with?” It’s
honest and truthful and the people she approaches are ready to help. But
here is the other thing that I love about her approach, she never goes for
anything that she does not have an interest in or truly cares about. So the connections that she makes on and off
the job are lasting ones.
For me, at this point in my life, making new friends is not something
that I go after. I have friends but I
also have “associates”. But there is
something about meeting a person for the first time and you feel a kindred
connection between the two of you. It
doesn’t matter what they do for a living, where they come from, or who they
know. The attraction is strictly based
on the connection, and there are no motives involved. I dare to say that we all have influential
friends, people are successful. Hell, we
all are in our own right. But when we
look at the people we are connected to we must be honest with ourselves in why
they are in our circle. What is the
purpose of this connection? How are we
being of service in their lives? What
was our initial motive in meeting them and jointly remaining a part of their
lives?
Having the right motives can be the difference between life and death
in all situations. If your motives were
not pure in the beginning, your projects will fail, your prayers will go
unanswered, and you will lose out on what you were going after in the first place. If your motives are right, your ending will
be right.
Until next time my lovelies…
Peace and blessings,
Phaedra
