Girlfriend Tea
Danger, danger, danger…because tea is being spilled all over the place! Whether it is two individuals or in a group, women have a tendency to tell each other about their lives AND the lives of others. When I am with girlfriends, I realize that if I am not careful, I would be putting my two cents in on something that has absolutely has nothing to do with me and mines. Consider this so as not to feed into the fury of talking about others.
1. Take the high road – let your comments begin
and end on positive note.
2. Shut Up – say nothing; let others say
what they want. In time, they will see
that you are not partaking in the conversation and the conversation will soon change.
3. Tell them about it – simply be bold
enough to say “we are getting ready to talk about something we know nothing
about so let’s just nip it right now”.
Water Cooler TeaCoworkers can be viewed as extended family members. Think about it, we see them almost every day and in addition to working together they partake in celebrating the milestone in our lives such as birthdays, births, and promotions. Coworkers grieve and sympathize with us during bad times such as in the times of sickness and even death. Believe it or not, coworkers share our lives one way or another.
Water cooler tea is the worst type of tea because information received usually does not come directly from the source. It has been passed around the office by several individuals and by the time it gets to you it’s only a version of the truth. STAY CLEAR of water cooler tea! Do not participate in it, it often leads to bad reputations and strained employee relationships. It could also hinder promotion within the company.
Family Tea
There is nothing like hearing all the latest news about the family. Every family has a particular family member who knows everything about anyone in the family. Most times, this person has good intentions and has the family’s best interest at heart. If through the spilling of tea you find that a family member is in trouble, do what you can to offer assistance in the matter and if this is done, let it be in confidence. Don’t feed into spilling of family tea.
Our
relationships with family, friends and coworkers are some bonds that we want to
make sure remain healthy. Our
conversations should be up lifting, positive and encouraging, and should anyone
tell us anything in confidence we should honor them by keeping the conversation
private. So the next time you are
tempted to spill the tea, ask yourself “would I like it if someone was talking
about me like that?” When you look at it like that “spilling the tea” is a big
mess you would want to avoid.
Peace and
blessings,
Phaedra
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