What Do They Really Want…5 Signs of “Bad Intentions” in a Relationship

When it comes to relationships, a person’s intentions are rarely known at the onset. We all have intentions, and you can best believe that when someone approaches you, they have them too.  The key to intentions is the ability to honest with ourselves about why we introduce, approach, invite and attach ourselves to certain people, and why people in turn introduce, approach,  and attach to us.

We get “jaded” by the idea of love, and fail to acknowledge the signs we saw in that person at the very beginning.  He doesn’t have a car…who do you think is going to drive you to places you want to go?  He doesn’t have a job…who do you think is going to pay for dinner?  He doesn’t have his own place…where are you going to go to spend a relaxing evening together?  I mean it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that this person is not taking care of themselves, how can they be of benefit to you?  It doesn’t even have to be on a financial level.  It can be emotional as well.  Here are  signs that the person you are dealing with has intentions that are not beneficial to your overall well-being.

They Stop Spending Time with You

PEOPLE MAKE TIME FOR THE THINGS THAT THEY REALLY WANT.  If the time he/she spends with you  has diminished, or is diminishing, so is your “so-called” relationship.

They Expect Everything, but Give Little or Nothing

Loving couples do not want to see their partner tired, stressed and worn out.  That’s just not right!
Excluding a debilitating disability, if you are taking care of the household by yourself, and the other party is capable of working , and the income they could bring in, no matter the amount will be beneficial, someone’s intentions is this relationship is not quite right. 

Their Past is Not Really in the Past
Everyone deserves a second chance for a good life, so don’t hold a person’s past against them.  We grow and we change.  But if the person you are in a relationship with is exhibiting the same behavior he/she told you about in their past and they are doing all the things mentioned above, you can best believe their past is their present, and their intentions towards you are not to your benefit.

Words Hurt…No Words Hurt Even More

In the beginning there were love notes or “I love you” texts, and now, if you are not arguing and bickering there is the silent treatment.  Nothing significant in the relationship has changed or so you thought; but the two of you seem to be arguing over the same old issues.  May be the thing you wanted him/her to do never gets done, maybe the intention all along was for you to do it. 

Too Much Too Soon

If this is you, then YOU need an intention “reality check”.  This type of behavior is not beneficial to you.  You need to examine why you feel the need to give so much, so soon, and expect so little in return.  In your mind, what did you think that you are getting from pursuing this kind of relationship?  Our bodies give off energies that attract certain people, examine what energy you are putting out to attract this type of person over and over again.  One of my male mentors always told me, he said “the one thing a bad man can spot, is a good woman”.  Change your energy, and change who you attract to our life. 

No one walks this earth alone.  We all need people in our lives for companionship and friendship.  Make sure that the people in your circle are the types of people that adds value to your life.  It’s as simple as that.

Until next time my lovelies…

Peace & blessings,
Phaedra